Should Alan and SJ get together?

[Llin]

So, which side of the great debate does everyone fall on?
I'd love to see more flirting between the two of them, because they're so sweet together, and Alan is so blatantly completely besotted. But on the other hand, I don't think they should get together, because think how weird that would be for Maria - Sarah is basically her best friend, and if she got together with Alan then things would be much more uncomfortable and nobody would know where they stood. Of course that would probably make for good drama, but I hope that SJ wouldn't want to put Maria in that position!

[becki_sarah4doc]

I really would like to see more flirting between them and i want to see Sarah happy with someone, I can see your point about Maria i've never thought about that before. I'm torn now lol before i was completely sure they should be together but now i can't decide either way more flirting can't hurt

[paranoidangel]

Of course they won't get together, she has Harry

[Llin]

paranoidangel wrote:

Of course they won't get together, she has Harry

*Sigh*
If only it could happen in the show.

[Sarah_Jane_Smith]

I think it is possible to be best friends with your mum- I am and I wpouldn't have live through these past fourteen-and-a-half years if I wasn't. The conventional mum/dad brother/sister familly is by no means dead but it isn't dominant either, so they could make it work, and Sarah-Jane would be so much better as a mum and partner than Chrissie could ever be (no offence, but I mean really, Chrissie is so irrisponsible and airheaded). Plus they're practically living together anyway so it wouldn't really make that much difference would it. On the other foot, Maria and Luke would be together, like twenty four seven and thatcould exclude Clyde big-time. Also would this marrige be good for Sarah-Janes girl-pwer womens independence thing. Also, what would the Doctor say?!?

Basically, I have no idea.

[Llin]

Sarah_Jane_Smith wrote:

I think it is possible to be best friends with your mum- I am and I wpouldn't have live through these past fourteen-and-a-half years if I wasn't.

I agree with you there, I do think that Sarah and Maria already have quite a mother-daughter relationship, and Sarah is a very good surrogate mum, but the thing that bothers me about it is that if she and Alan got together they would be operating much more as a unit where Maria is concerned, and Maria might not feel so able to be friends with Sarah, knowing that Sarah might tell Alan what she'd been up to or whatever. Also, when there were arguments, Sarah's loyalties would be divided between the two of them.
Mind you, now that Alan knows all about everything, I think the relationships in the group are going to get a lot more complicated anyway, and Sarah is going to have to answer to Alan a lot more in terms of where she takes the kids and what they do.

Sarah_Jane_Smith wrote:

no offence, but I mean really, Chrissie is so irrisponsible and airheaded

I dunno... air-headed, yes, irresponsible, I would disagree with. I mean, she has consistently tried to protect Maria from harm, even if she's gone the wrong way about it sometimes. I mean, all she hears about from Maria is how cool Sarah Jane is, and what she's been up to with Sarah Jane - it isn't really considered normal for a teenage girl to spend so much time with an older woman, and it's bound to strike Chrissie as a bit odd. And then when she hears that Sarah Jane is supposedly a crazy child-snatcher, well, she couldn't exactly sit back and do nothing. Not knowing Sarah very well, calling the police in The Lost Boy was the sensible decision for her to make to look after Maria, even if she was needlessly bitchy about it afterward.

[Sarah_Jane_Smith]

Fair enough about Chrissie I suppose but it doesn't stop me not liking her for trusting the news meadia cult more than her own family. (sorry. I'm a bit anti news at the moment)

[Stardoe]

I say definitely not!!!! Sarah is something like 56 and Alan is something like 36. She's old enough to be his mother. I really am against everything having to be about getting it together each time a male and female turn up in a show. Particularly when the age difference in this case is so huge!!. I would not have anything against Sarah getting herself a love interest at some stage......I saw the way the chief inspector of police gave her a look in "The Lost Boy." And he was pretty good looking for an old bloke.

I actually enjoy the references to Sarah's age and the fact that she is pushing 60. She's a great idol for the older women around who really get a kick out of seeing someone in their age bracket looking so great and doing such fantastic things. I don't feel Sarah should be younged down to suit the shippers of the world. I would love to see Sarah, Alan and the kids become more like the family that they are but with friendship and parenthood being the root of it all rather than trying to pair the adults or the kids off with eachother. I feel that is one of the things that spoils the new Dr Who......putting romance in when it isn't necessary. I really do feel that people need to be realisitc when it comes to Sarah and Alan.......yeah she looks great but she's old and we oldies really love the fact that she is old and if she's going to get a boyfriend then he has to be at least 50. How many old women get to go out and save the world every week? Sarah Jane makes us oldies feel really good about getting old and gives us our own super hero[ine]. So leave SJ to us and let Alan get a girlfriend befitting his own age group.

[Stardoe]

I would really love to think that Sarah and Harry were once an item...a really serious item.....once upon a time and I'd love an ep of SJA that tells us what happened to him. Of course he would have to have passed away in some way though because in my mind, that is the only plausible reason why he isn't with SJ now.

[Dr. Dasha]

I have mixed feelings on this topic.  

On the pessimistic side: Sarah is old enough to be Alan's mom.  While intergenerational romances are not impossible, they're not very common, either.

On the optimistic side: It would be very cute and touching to see Sarah become an actual mother-figure to Maria, since she is already a symbolic mother-figure to her.  And Alan could be a father-figure for Luke.

On the realistic side: Romantic tension is one thing that keeps viewers tuning in every week.  The BBC wants to keep us hanging on the edges of our seats.  If Sarah and Alan are ever going to get together, it's probably not going to be until the end of the series.

[Revolutionaren]

I agree, I do believe that sometime after Sarah left the Doctor, she and Harry got together, and this lasted for quite some time.
I don't want to believe he's dead, so in my mind he went to sea and has gone missing. (For all we know, he may have gone through some rift accidentally and landed in another time and/or planet ;D Unlikely, but at least he isn't dead.)
I would LOVE it if he got a decent and proper explanation in SJA, for I believe when Sarah says "There was only one man for [her]" she's referring to Harry.

[Revolutionaren]

I'm going to have to say no on this one.
I have nothing against Alan, and I think they'll become really close friends. Nor do I object to a bit of flirting here and there.
But I can not see Sarah and Alan together as a couple.

[Dr. Dasha]

Yeah, I agree with your that the romantic elements on the new Dr. Who seem out of place (to me).  With the old series, I always saw the Doctor as a surrogate parental figure to his companions.  (After all, they were all young, and many of them were orphans.)  It seems like that kind of relationship has resurfaced in SJA, with Sarah now serving as a parental figure to her young companions--yay, Sarah!  :)

[Stardoe]

I too saw the Doctor as a [and thanks for that label] surrogate parental figure. Even when Peter Davidson came along I still did not see him as on a par with the young companions in that way. He was still a mentor type rather than someone that Tegan or Nyssa might think of getting on with. Never once did any such thought ever enter my mind back then and I don't think it should have a place in the new DW or SJA. I'm happy to leave that all with Torchwood. lol.

[Stardoe]

I agree. I too would like to think that she is referring to Harry when saying that. I've never been comfortable with the thought that the companions were actually in love with the Doctor and that Sarah pined for him all those years as was depicted in School Reunion. But at the end of School Reunion she says that there was one guy and she travelled with him for a time but he was a tough act to follow. Well she could be referring to Harry coz she travelled with him for a time. Let's hope.

[Dr. Dasha]

Hm, this is an interesting theory, that Sarah's true love is Harry Sullivan.  When I first started watching _Dr. Who_ as a little kid, I actually had the mistaken notion that Harry was Sarah's brother, so I never thought of him as a love-interest for Sarah.  But everything that you guys have said fits.  So maybe Harry _is_ Sarah's true love.  Next time I watch the old Sarah-n-Harry _Dr.  Who_ ep's, I'll have to see if I notice any chemistry between Sarah and Harry.  :)

[Llin]

Dr. Dasha wrote:

 Next time I watch the old Sarah-n-Harry _Dr.  Who_ ep's, I'll have to see if I notice any chemistry between Sarah and Harry.  :)

In that case, especially watch Terror of the Zygons, they're all over each other! Although Revenge of the Cybermen has lots of old-married-couple bickering...

[Stardoe]

I hate to burst the bubble here but I watched School Reunion again yesterday and saw the bit where Sarah says to Rose to stay with the Doctor because "Some things are worth getting your heart broken for." But I can see where her heart was broken to be just dumped and never to see him again because who would not want to continue such a great life with such a fantastically marvellous bloke such as the Doctor. We all would be heart broken, so I guess that all fits and Harry could still be the ROMANTIC one that she could be referring to. I actually never thought of them as being an item when I watched back then but thought that it would eventually go that way, particularly after she returned to earth full time. I did think that there was alot of chemistry between them and did enjoy the married couple bickering in Revenge of the Cybermen. But he started off teasing her right from the start by calling her Old Girl and Old Thing, all the time. A great pairing, I thought.

[paranoidangel]

It's interesting that you thought they were brother and sister, Dr Dasha, because that's how I see their relationship. I think that what Sarah's talking about in School Reunion are the experiences she had travelling with the Doctor and the life she had then and that nothing can compare. I think she loved the Doctor, but not romantically.

[Llin]

I realise that this adds nothing useful to the debate, and we seem to have moved onto Sarah and Harry anyway, but look how cute!!!